Successful women are sometimes told they are “intimidating.” But often, the real issue is not that a woman needs to become less successful, less intelligent, or less ambitious.
She may simply be meeting men who are uncomfortable with those qualities. At Sacred Amour, we do not believe a woman should minimize the life she has built in order to make herself easier to date.
The goal is alignment. A secure man can admire a woman’s accomplishments without viewing them as competition. He does not need her to become smaller so that he can feel larger.
At the same time, successful women can create more connection by allowing a date to discover the person behind the résumé.
You are more than your career. Talk about what makes you laugh, what you love, where you want to travel, your family, your passions, your dreams, and the life you hope to share with someone.
There is no need to lead with every accomplishment, but there is also no reason to hide them. The right man will appreciate both your strength and your softness.
Instead of asking, How can I be less intimidating?, consider asking:
Am I choosing men who are secure enough to appreciate who I actually am?
You do not need to become less successful to become more lovable.
