Being pursued does not require playing games. You do not need to intentionally ignore messages, pretend you are unavailable, or manipulate someone into working harder for your attention.
Instead, it begins with creating enough space for another person to demonstrate genuine interest. At Sacred Amour, we encourage women to participate in dating without feeling responsible for controlling every step of the relationship.
If a man expresses interest, allow him an opportunity to follow through.
If he says he wants to see you again, you do not necessarily need to immediately plan the next date for him.
Let his actions provide information.
You can be warm, responsive, appreciative, and interested while still allowing him to take initiative. This is not about outdated rules regarding who is “allowed” to contact whom. It is about reciprocity.
When you constantly initiate and move everything forward, it can become difficult to determine how much effort the other person would make without your direction.
Give the connection room to breathe. A man who is genuinely interested should have opportunities to demonstrate that interest.
You are not withholding affection. You are allowing someone’s intentions to become visible through their behavior. Sometimes doing slightly less gives you the opportunity to learn significantly more.
