There is a difference between being considerate and having no opinion. Many men believe being agreeable will make dating easier. Whatever you want to do. Wherever you want to eat. Whatever works for you.
Occasionally, that flexibility is thoughtful. But when every decision is handed back to the other person, it can begin to feel less like kindness and more like uncertainty.
At Sacred Amour, we believe decisiveness can be incredibly attractive when it is paired with consideration.
Instead of asking, What do you want to do? every time, try:
I found a great restaurant I think you’d enjoy. Are you free Friday at seven?
You have taken initiative while still giving her the opportunity to say yes, suggest something different, or communicate a preference.
Decisiveness does not mean controlling every detail. It means being comfortable enough to have an opinion, make a plan, and take responsibility for moving things forward.
- This applies beyond dates as well.
- Know what you want from a relationship.
- Communicate your intentions.
- Make decisions that align with your values.
- The goal is not to become inflexible.
The most attractive form of decisiveness combines confidence with respect: knowing what you want while remaining interested in what your partner wants too.
